I would hate for you all to see this side of me, but can I please borrow your ear, I can’t hold it in anymore. I must vent, but just know what I’m telling you is not from a hateful place, it’s all said in love. Every year I host a cocktail party, have been doing so for the last 20 years. From the Watergate to the Willard Hotel, formal garden parties at my house, to name a few. I go all out to make sure my guests have the best of everything. No cost to them just to come, in your finest to celebrate with me. 

I was just looking at the photos from the cocktail party a couple weeks ago, and instantly got angry how some of you showed up. If I invite you to my cocktail party, and your not dressed in cocktail attire. Please don’t come. Why in the hell do I have to keep saying the same thing over and over.I promise you I won’t say it again. 

The next time any of you decide to show up not properly dressed I will ask you to leave. No Bullshit. I plan these cocktail parties to a T. It’s always a catered event, unlimited premium champagne, top shelf bar, and lots of beautiful intelligent people. Remember this is being said in love. 

And, for those of you who show up uninvited this message is for you. If I didn’t personally invite you, don’t fucking come. 

I told you before life is about evolving, growing, following directions, I’m not asking for much. Just put on some beautiful clothes when you come to my events I don’t make it a secret what I like, who I like, what I’m doing and what I’m not doing. If your not feeling well that day, or don’t feel like pulling it together, my event is not the event to come to.

I’m at the point in my life where soft skin is not going to cut it, people easily offended but yet often offending watching everything I say but yet people can say whatever they want to say to you. Grow the fuck up and evolve. If you want to know the truth I actually have become a lot nicer. With that being said, step your game up and if you choose not too. Stay the fuck away from me.

Greetings, thank you all for your birthday wishes, prayers, and encouraging words. Had a great time celebrating another birthday, praise God for allowing me to see another year. And, not only that still in my right frame of mind, I have been truly blessed.

My folks came up from North Carolina to celebrate with me.

Mom still looking amazing, and my Dad who calls 10 times a day asking am I O.K, and if I need anything.

OMG I cannot believe how much I’ve matured over this past year. I started to tell my age but, it doesn’t matter, lol!

Remember, it’s not the number of years you’ve been here, it’s what you have done with the time God has allowed you to live.

Much love,

D

Stop running from who you are, destiny will find you. And, once you embrace your destiny, you be come free. I can’t tell your story but I can definitely tell mine. Whether you understand it or not, is on you.

My life’s journey has taught me so much, and one of my recent lessons was meeting people halfway.  That does not mean you have compromised who you are. It allows others to share they’re talents as well. 

Look, “the reality is there are lions out there!”, as my mom would say. And, we must learn to fight. But, be gentle at the same time. 

No one knows your story, and nobody can tell your story like you can. We all have a story. The difference is, some of us only dream and then they’re others who put work behind there dreams. With the combination of faith and work you will be a winner every time. 

The good part about the new America for example, NeNe Leakes, Honey Boo Boo, Duck Dynasty, etc, being you natural born self can make you a millionaire overnight. 

I don’t want to talk your head off. But, there is one something I want you all to do with me. If you will share this message, with at least 10 people you genuinely care about, secondly and memorize what has helped me sooo much these past few years. 

Ephesians 6:12 

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

I love you all,

D

Evolving? 

What does that really mean? 

Webster’s meaning, is ” develop gradually, esp. from a simple to a more complex form”. What a great definition of the word, I could not have come up with anything better. It’s nothing worse in my opinion when one does not evolve. 

Things are much different now then they were 20 years ago, hell let’s say 10 years ago. So ask yourself in the last 10 years, what have I learned, what bad habits have I broken, and what goals were met?

 I must say, personally speaking, I have learned so much in the last 10 years. Not by sitting in a classroom, just everyday life. Life has taught me so much, it’s taught me compassion, it’s also taught me to love all people no matter what our differences might be.

I can truly say I am a full-fledged adult, not just by age, everyday I’m evolving. 

Darnell

Crazy busy renovating my dads house, de-cluttering, and still growing Darnell’s Bar. To be honest with you I’m pretty proud of myself for staying focused on all three tasks, I’ve never been good at multi-tasking. But, being a small business owner it is something I learned to do.

I also want to put a little bug in your ear. What I’ve learned through my journey is to never sweat the small stuff(BULLSHIT), I keep my eyes on the prize and do my best to make shit happen! 

Talking about turning lemons into lemonade, OMG if you only knew…

Darnell

Through it all I’m still here, and not only am I here, my place is growing. For such a small space with no sign, limited parking, and of course you know who ^ … 

God has brought me through and I believe the best is yet to come. What I’ve learned through all of this is to be consistent, have tough skin, stay prayed up, and endure. I was once told from one of my favorite mentors, “It takes a special person, to build, and especially from ground up.”.

I think out loud a lot on my blog, because the majority of you have been so supportive of my continued growth, and in my heart I really believe you understand where I’m coming from.

I love you all and you have shown me how much you love me back. 

Darnell

April 25th! Geeeeezz!  Really, where does it really go!? 

I was told years ago, the older you get, the faster time passes. And, when you think about it. It waits for no one.. People are born and die everyday. And, time stays the same.. 

But never the less, it’s almost that time of year for me again. Come June 6th I will be celebrating another birthday, lords willing. Friday June 7th will be my pre-party here at the bar. Saturday the 8th, I will be hosting my annual cocktail party from 6 to 9 pm here at the bar.

And, the after party immediately following!

Please join me during these celebrations! 

More information to come.

Greetings!

Sorry I’ve been missing in action. Please believe me, I’ve been totally busy de-cluttering!

It actually feels good, to get rid of so much shit. I had no idea that I had become a hoarder! 

I had enough stuff to furnish two friends entire houses, now you know thats a shame… 

With all that said, I’m glad to know all of the things I have collected is now placed in good homes. I also switched out a couple chairs and a sofa at the bar which fits perfectly in that space. 

Got a new hair cut, and have been sticking to my diet! I have been having this conversation with my close friends and staff about reinventing ourselves. 

Changing it up a little bit…

Maturing, and growing…

I would have never thought in a million years, that I would walk around with an almost bald head. I also never thought I would have only one sofa in a living room. 

I’m so excited about this new chapter in my life, I have been looking forward to it. I also believe that God is preparing me for something greater.

The theme song amongst my dearest friends is “Started from the bottom, and now we’re here!”.

Can you believe 25 years went by that fast! I’m proud to say in my circle we all have worked hard, and none of us was born with a silver spoon. By Gods grace, he has brought us this far and I believe the best is yet to come.

I love you all so much, and I truly appreciate you.

And, it goes without saying, thank you for letting me be myself.

Darnell