Aside 25 Oct


I got a real lashing from , God himself, he spoke to me and said these exact words, ” Darnell, everything you have asked me for, didn’t I give it to you?” My response, was “Yes.”, Then he said,” What I want you to do is to take a break from asking and look at all I have blessed you with and instead of asking for more thank me more.” 



Aside 26 Sep

I had great intentions to change somethings since the last time you all read this. Do you remember I was talking about my bad habits?  Well, since then nothing has changed.. Still smoking cigarettes, still eating the wrong shit and some other things I care not to discuss at this present time. Well at least I tried, and will continue to recognize there is a problem. And hopefully one of these days I will be be writing, “I used to….”. 


I love y’all, and thanks for listening,




12 Sep

I have a confession to make, nahhhhhhhhh.


 Y’all not ready for that! 


Or, should I say, I’m not ready to reveal my bad habits! 


But I will say I do have some very bad habits and when you’re my age with bad habits, they are definitely hard to break. 


Smoking cigarettes is one of them, I don’t know why I can not break that habit. But I told myself, “Self, as we approach 2014 that will not be a part of your make up.”, -Darnell the smoker.


 I’m not a specialist, I can only speak on how I feel. I do feel that bad habits can effect you in many ways. For example, some of the company we keep, yea people can also be a bad habit. You have been around these people for so long, that even you don’t want to realize that theres a difference between the two. Or you can say you’ve out grown each other, yea that can be possible, but how is that possible when you know you should be somewhere else, doing something else, or with someone else. 


A lot of times I’m scared, yes I’m scared, because I know better, and I also know there is better… And, until we break these bad habits our “better”, will never see fruition. 


Thanks for listening, I love you.


Aside 5 Sep

I know it’s been a while, I’ve been very busy at the bar of course. And, also taking care of my terminally ill Dad. 


Yea, its a lot, but I manage to get everything done. 


Even though sometimes I am very tired God gives me strength to do all that needs to be done.


I truly believe that both growth and maturity comes with age and the universal class of hard knock life. Some pass with flying colors, some barely make it through, but at some point they end up getting it. And, then they’re those who no matter what will do the same shit every day of their lives, same story, same bullshit, just a different day. And for what ever reason never seem to catch a break. 


A lot of times these are people we either grew up with or at one time or another had a close relationship with and in some cases even our relatives. 


I can only speak for myself not saying its wrong or right there are some conversations that I once had with friends or acquaintances that for many years wouldn’t bother me. But, now I’m all grown up and have a million things to do on a daily basis. My tolerance for idle conversation is zero..


It’s still a lot I need to accomplish and projects that need to be completed. 


What I’ve learned is that, when you focus on yourself, making sure that you are spiritually and financially stable and capable of taking care of yourself. It is definitely a full time job.


So really your not interested in hearing about someones up’s, or downs. Of course I’m happy for you when things are going well, and my heart is sad when things are not.


We all have those days.


It’s time for us all to grow up, and stop whining and complaining about what was and whats now. Let’s do our best to make it, the best way possible.


It’s so important to pass life’s lessons earlier on. When you are young its expected to be young, dumb and foolish, but when you are in the same place in your life at 40, that you were when you were in your teens or twenties. Thats a major problem. I’ve heard that I’ve changed, the answer is “Yes I have changed!”, I’sa grown now!. I know the ingredients that makes up Darnell and foolishness is not one of them. 


Remember, whats best for you is not necessarily best for me.


Question; Do you even know whats best for you? 

Aside 9 Aug

As we move forward, lets remember to stay focused and strong! 


As we heard time and time again, “Only the strong survive”. 


I had a conversation with my Dad the other day, and he was so encouraging. Just telling me to always be gracious to my patrons. And, to encourage my staff to do the same thing. Then he said not only to my patrons, but to mankind, let us all be gracious, we have come so far and like many of us we still have a long way to go. Always remember to treat people the way you want to be treated. 


Thats the way it goes,




PS: gracious |ˈgrāSHəs|


1 courteous, kind, and pleasant: smiling and gracious in defeat.

• elegant and tasteful, esp. as exhibiting wealth or high social status:


It’s me again!

11 Jul

If you have been following me you would notice I’ve been doing a countdown of each holiday. Oh well, as you all know we just celebrated the Fourth of July, which was great!

Had the pool cleaned just in time for family and friends to come over for and impromptu barbecue. My adopted nieces and nephews are growing so fast!

But, like I said, time waits for no man, and what we do with it is totally up to us. As you may know I’m also taking care of my dad’s business and personal affairs, who has lou gehrig’s disease, celebrated

his birthday this past Monday, so grateful to spend another birthday with my dad.

Sometimes overwhelmed with everyday life shit, business and personal, my terminally ill dad, growing a small business, etc etc etc…

I have learned not to complain, stay strong, and do the best I can which is all I can do and be faithful over a little knowing it will become much. But, most importantly maintaining.

I’ve seen it, and have also experienced it, weather it was a new house, car, or job. It’s not getting those things, which is commendable, but whats even more commendable is maintaining. Being grateful for the small things that eventually turn into the big things.


Summer two-thousand thirteen…

28 Jun





Can you believe how fast these past six months have gone by, and how fast June has gone by as well? 


I always have a to-do list but seemingly it’s not enough time in the day to get all of what I need to get done accomplished. OMG, something just clicked in my head, its the same 24 hours in a day it has always been I just need to get up a little earlier, stop procrastinating and get the shit done..


From the words of Lord Chesterfield; Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it. No idleness; no laziness; no procrastination; never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.